"You're so laid back."
"You're so relaxed."
I keep getting comments like these in relation to my mothering, and I just can't seem to take them as a compliment.
Do they mean:
"Your holey-crotched yoga pants evoke a confident ease." or
"The way you put your greasy mop back in the same ponytail every day shows a true laissez-faire approach to hair care" or more likely,
"Watching you let those babies cry as you pee/shove a meal down your gullet/scratch your ass shows you've developed a truly casual parenting style."
I'm sure that's overthinking it a bit, but I just wonder what people mean exactly. I don't notice that other moms are super hyper (Well, not all moms anyway). I'm generally a laid back person in a lot of respects. And I've discovered that babies cry. Sometimes they're crying for a reason, but sometimes they're just crying because they don't know what else to do with their bountiful spare time.
Also, I really subscribe to the theory that if I stay calm, the babies will too. We keep a fairly quiet house. The tv is low when it's on. We don't yell much (ever) and I think (hope) that this will result in chill kids who don't need to shriek to be heard. But now that I've been getting this comment so much, I wonder if I'm TOO relaxed. Should I be rushing to them at every squawk? Or wiping up every drop of drool? I've recently renamed Sarah "Drooliette Lewis", so I would be extremely hard-pressed to keep up with that constant flow. I guess I will just take it as a compliment, but I know that every time someone says it, I will wonder a little bit what about me seems so chill.
So, spill it. Have you ever thought a mom was laid back? So much so that you told her? And were you being nice? Come on - I can take it!